Retirement; like your parents, but way cooler
In 1991 Billy and Akaisha Kaderli retired at the age
of 38. Now, into their 4th decade of this
financially independent lifestyle, they invite you
to take advantage of their wisdom and experience.
5 Tips for Keeping in Touch
with Long-Distance Loved Ones
Suppose you’ve decided to pack your bags and
jump across the pond for some post-retirement adventures. Whether you’re
settling down for a peaceful stay near the Irish cliffs or gearing up for a
colorful thrill in Monaco, the decision to move overseas is a big one.
Retiring abroad has
numerous benefits, including more affordable luxury lifestyles in certain
American-dollar-friendly countries, the convenience of moving to an area with
favorable tax regulations, and the excitement of an entirely new environment.
However, while it looks like a fool-proof plan at first glance, many retirees
get caught on one disheartening snag: moving away from loved ones and
relationships between grandparents and loved ones can induce stress and
loneliness. Nobody— especially loving grandparents— wants to miss out on first
words, ballet recitals, and personal milestones. Long-term separation can also
put extra pressure on in-person visits and may exacerbate feelings of loneliness
and homesickness. Still, you can take steps to mitigate emotional hardships by
joining clubs or groups nearby, utilizing social media, or even seeking
therapeutic counseling to help with the adjustment.
As you plan your stay-cation
abroad, consult these five tips for keeping in touch with long-distance loved
ones and evade moving-related woes.
While an international
call home to your grandchildren can ease some heartache, you could potentially
rack up some serious fees. Billing companies determine costs through various
factors, like phone plan and provider, landline or mobile usage, and your
intended call location.
Despite the charges,
staying in touch with adult children and grandkids is of the utmost importance.
Making consistent calls will help you provide mutual emotional support, foster a
continued familial bond, and ease feelings of loneliness. Look into top-rated
cell phones for seniors to get your
hands on a device that will allow you and your family to stay close from afar.
Propose an engaging
While writing letters
may seem outdated, remotely retired seniors are
embracing classic message sending like never before. Handwritten notes allow writers to update family
members more intimately through physical photos or mementos. If using Snail Mail
isn’t your thing, begin a weekly writing project where you and your loved ones
correspond via email. Your grandchildren will love looking forward to their
weekly notes, and you’ll enjoy the consistency of connection.
that may feel foreign to you
If you’re more of a
scrapbook lover than a Facebook enthusiast, you’re not alone. Rapidly emerging
applications and technologies can feel foreign and all-too-difficult to get the
hang of, but they may be easier to learn than you think. Ask your grandkids to
set up apps like Snapchat for photo and video sending, Instagram for picture
documenting, or Facebook for reconnecting with old friends. You’ll feel better
connected as you keep up with your family members’ lives and combat the
emotional challenges of moving overseas.
grandchildren in a way that appeals to them
If you have very young
grandchildren, they may not understand why you’re moving so far away, and if
you’ve got teenage grandchildren, they may struggle with motivation to stay in
touch. Regardless of age, tailor your interactions to meet their needs.
You’re probably looking
ways to make the world a better place for your grandkids, and now you
can expand their lives by introducing them to your new life abroad. Help young
grandchildren navigate your move by sending pictures of your new home, showing
locations on a map, or mailing small trinkets or gift boxes from local markets.
If your grandchildren are older, engage in Facebook messaging or frequent
texting to keep them up-to-date. When you speak your grandkids’ language, you’ll
find that communication will become more consistent and meaningful.
Budget and plan for
While coming home to see
the grandkids is no longer as simple as hopping in a car and driving an hour or
two, putting in the time to prepare and plan for semi-regular vacations home is
critical. Since overseas travel is time-consuming and costly, you need to make
your visit worthwhile.
intentions to visit so family members can prepare and invite relatives to stay
with you abroad if they have the means. While digital connection tools like
video chat and messaging apps certainly help keep the connection alive, nothing
will feel quite as good as a hug from grandma or grandpa.
Moving abroad after your
long-awaited retirement is an invigorating experience. However, you run the risk
of missed familial gatherings and lost connections. Evade loneliness and
detachment by regularly scheduling calls, writing letters, and visiting on
occasion, and enjoy the perks of living abroad without losing touch with the
people who matter most.
About the Authors
Early Lifestyle appeals to a different
kind of person – the person who prizes their
independence, values their time, and who doesn’t
want to mindlessly follow the crowd.
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