“But…” and as her voice stumbled, she took a big sigh. “Her politics
were different. So I cut the friendship off.”
was flabbergasted and wanted to grab this person by her shoulders to
shake some sense into her. Who has so many gratifying friendships that
we can easily toss one overboard because the person holds a different
wasn’t like this other woman was a child molester, had embezzled funds
from her employer to cause bankruptcy or had a cocaine addiction.
Sharon dumped her friend because she held a different point of view.
Two friends share and listen
And apparently, that was just over the top for Sharon’s
friendship is defined only in parameters where we must agree on
everything, where is the growth? How does our world open up so we learn
something new? Would Sharon feel as smug about her decision to let the
relationship go if the person involved were a different religion or a
opinion that authentic relationships involve having genuine conversations. That
takes both risk taking and the willingness to be vulnerable. We must feel safe
enough with another to put ourselves out there and be willing to be wrong; to
feel secure - yet free enough - to say “I don’t know how I feel about that” and
to change our minds if new facts come to light.
love if not offering a holding place for another to express what’s in their
“You can be
yourself with me. I may not agree or understand, but I choose to listen to what
you have to say because you matter. We matter.”
listening with passion.
you may hold a different opinion.
About the Authors
Billy and Akaisha Kaderli are
recognized retirement experts and internationally published authors on
topics of finance, medical tourism and world travel. With the wealth of
information they share on their award winning website RetireEarlyLifestyle.com,
they have been helping people achieve their own retirement dreams since
1991. They wrote the popular books, The
Adventurer’s Guide to Early Retirement and Your
Retirement Dream IS Possible available on their website
Early Lifestyle appeals to a different
kind of person – the person who prizes their
independence, values their
time, and who doesn’t want to mindlessly
follow the crowd.
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