Many of us don’t realize that the mind is an obedient companion and it looks for direction.
You will find that being more mindful of the words you use on a daily basis will change your life.
I think it would be safe to say that we all have lots of experience in using the two words, “What If…?”— except we tend to use it to our detriment.
What if I get sick?
What if I run out of money?
What if I don’t get that job?
What if I’m old, alone, and have no money?
Ok… What would happen if you turn the use of those two words around? Use them for your benefit to open up your mind to find things to support you? As in…
What if… there’s an answer here somewhere, I just don’t see it yet?
What if… this isn’t as hard as I have been telling myself?
What if… I don’t have to be locked in by this diagnosis?
What if… I looked at this differently?
What if… This isn’t as bad as I think?
What if… This is a GOOD thing?
What if… I could learn something here?
What if… I didn’t respond with anger this time?
What if… I didn’t take offense at that comment?
What if… I actually HAD enough money to do “X”?
What if… I got the support I need?
What if… This works out for me?
What if… It’s easier than I think?
What if… I could find common ground with this person (whom I don’t like)?
What if… This current health challenge I face isn’t “The BIG One”?
What if… I get everything I need, in an easy manner and it all falls into place for me?
Asking yourself an open-ended question with a positive direction allows your mind to focus on something favorable. You will be surprised at how the stress and anxiety about a conundrum you face just falls away, and creative energy flows in, instead.
We are already skilled in using “What If” in a negative way. Turn it around to your benefit.
What if… I OPENED up to the situation here?
What if… I had FUN with this instead of stressing out?
What if… I don’t have to be perfect?
What if… I’m really ok?
Billy and I use “What if…” as a way to open up to solutions when we feel stuck. It really works!
Let me know about your experiences using “What if…”. Feel free to write to me at TheGuide@RetireEarlyLifestyle.com
Susan: Great advice, Akaisha! When you are confronted with a scary medical diagnosis, for example, some of these questions can be very helpful, but hope, optimism and MOXIE! also figure into the equation.
Akaisha: Absolutely, Susan. Our mental attitude and perception have much to do with how we see the world, and our interaction within it.
Things can be an “ordeal” or an “adventure. Something can be a “challenge” or a “gift.” How we choose to view makes all the difference in the world.
Susan: Well said, Akaisha!