Retirement; like your parents, but way cooler
In 1991 Billy and Akaisha Kaderli retired at the age
of 38. Now, into their 4th decade of this
financially independent lifestyle, they invite you
to take advantage of their wisdom and experience.
The Heart of Mexico; Love in a Cantina
Billy and Akaisha Kaderli
old-style Mexican cantina
Billy and I spend a lot of time together.
After being retired over three decades, we have worked out a nice rhythm
of time apart - and time working on joint projects and having fun.
Chapala, Mexico, Billy will sometimes go to a favorite cantina in the
afternoons just a couple of blocks from our apartment. This cantina has a
long history, and we used to visit it years ago in 1993 when we first
started coming to this lakeside town.
know the family who owns El Gavilan, and we know their children, have
watched them grow up and start families of their own.
in the olden days, women were not allowed in this cantina.
It was a manís
The only women who dared walk in were ladies of the night.
swinging wooden doors, it looks straight out of a Clint Eastwood western.
Children would peek through the slats to see if their fathers were inside
and then go home and tell Mama so she would know.
El Gavilan with the wooden slats where
kids would look inside
Times have changed.
Patti and her barmaids now run the business, there is a
ladies room, women are welcome and itís a respectable place to have a brew
or a tequila. You can visit with friends who know your name.
Think a Mexican
style of Cheers bar.
this particular afternoon, Billy invites me to go with him to El Gavilan.
Since I know this is one of ďhisĒ places, Iím thrilled to be invited. Itís
like a date and I canít wait to go.
we arrive, Billy opens one side of the swinging slatted doors, I walk in,
find a table and sit down. We say hello to friends at the bar, and one of
them joins our table.
long afterwards, another friend we know who owns a restaurant-bar in town,
comes in with one of his patrons. He tells Billy that this man has been
sitting at his bar all afternoon and Pablo has taken his keys so he canít
drive home. ďEverything is ok, Iíll call a cab later to be sure he gets
My beauty is
not long before this customer tells Pablo that he thinks Iím beautiful and
begins to blow me kisses from across the room.
He waves and shrugs his
shoulders as if he canít help himself in the midst of startling beauty and
continues to blow me a kiss or two every few minutes. Pablo is there so Iím
Not only that, but the friend who joined our table is ex-military
and he boxes at the gym down the street on a regular basis. And
Billy is there armed withÖ wellÖhis camera. Whatever happens, heíll
photograph it, video it and then show the manís wife, sisters,
daughters and female neighbors and all the appropriate
finger-wagging will put him in his place.
He definitely wonít chance
that. So I feel pretty safe.
Music adds another dimension
Wandering troubadours come in to sing for donations. We know the leader of
the band and the music is of the dancing kind, so another gentleman twenty
years my senior asks a young lady to dance with him and they do.
The young woman is smiling, knowing that the gentleman is a good
friend, and they are having fun twirling to classic Mexican songs. This man
has a hearty laugh and a large smile.
nursing my glass of wine, when my kiss-blowing friend buys a round of drinks
for our table.
I look up.
He shrugs again, blows me another kiss and smiles,
rendered completely helpless by my elegance. Pablo has him firmly in check,
I wave back and say ďGracias!Ē
military friend leans in and asks me ďWhatís it feel like to be hot?Ē
laugh good-naturedly wondering how I walked into this time warp. Itís not
the band plays on
Soon, the well-dressed elderly gentleman begins to point at me, and
desperately, I think he wants to dance.
So much attention and
instinctively I begin to shrink.
Antonio, the leader of the band intervenes
and he explains that this man wants to buy me a song. His band will serenade
me at his expense.
eyes widen. This has never happened to me before and Iím not going to let
the chance slip me by.
press my hand to my heart and say ďGracias!Ē I choose one of my favorite
songs of all timeÖ
these three handsome troubadours surround me - and in my direction begin to
sing boldly and in harmony.
completely overwhelmed with the emotion and the attention.
Iíll be on Medicare
later on this year.
is this happening?
realize that those are limiting thoughts and I canít believe I have placed
myself in that mental prison.
Frozen and frightened places in my heart begin to melt, and tears are
streaming down my face. I canít stop them.
ďKiss me. Kiss me a lot.
tonight is the last time.
afraid to lose you.
me. Kiss me a lot.Ē
gentleman behind the troubadours is smiling and saying to me ďItís a memory
Yes, it is.
I am so grateful.
Afterwards, when the song is finished, I feel as though itís been a
I tip the musicians generously, and shake their hands.
I approach the elderly gentleman and personally tell him thank you again,
for this treasured memory Iíll have for the rest of my life.
the heart of Mexico, this is love in a cantina.
The stress of living in
the States can take its toll on your health. People say that living in
Chapala adds ten years to your life and we believe it. The relaxed
Mediterranean lifestyle, clean air, great food, friendly people and just
plain fun is bound to extend your life.
What are you waiting
for? Keep your retirement dreams alive.
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About the Authors
Billy and Akaisha Kaderli are
recognized retirement experts and internationally published authors on
topics of finance, medical tourism and world travel. With the wealth of
information they share on their award winning website RetireEarlyLifestyle.com,
they have been helping people achieve their own retirement dreams since
1991. They wrote the popular books, The
Adventurerís Guide to Early Retirement and Your
Retirement Dream IS Possible available on their website
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